If you are a man, listen up. If you are a man who is now, has ever been or ever hopes to be in a relationship with a woman, this is for your eyes, so please pay attention. Women, you are more than welcome to chime in when necessary.
I am no expert on this subject, but I have been living with the same man for the past thirty-three years and might I add, yes…. I love him deeply. Although I am not an expert, living with him for so long has made me somewhat knowledgable. I have to admit, I am very proud of him. He gets it. He really knows what I want and need. Men, let me ask you…Do you know what women really want?
What you are about to read may not represent all women because, yes.. we can be complicated and not always know what we want. But I’m sure there are a few women out there who will agree with my thoughts and hope that men will listen and learn. This is just a starter list, and you are more than welcome to add to it with your own thoughts and creativity.
Your woman wants to be appreciated for who she is. No surprise there. Right? Wrong. It’s all about surprise. You can appreciate her just by telling her. Telling her you are supportive of her dreams and goals is great. But, when my husband takes notice of my passion for photography, that’s awesome. There are times when we are out just randomly running errands. He reminds me, “Maybe you should take your camera, just in case.” So, I run back inside and grab it. After the groceries are shopped and the errands are ran, I find myself not in the direction of home, but instead, searching for the perfect spot to catch the sunset before it finally goes down for the night. Yes, he is chasing the sun behind trees and city just so I can get that shot. Sometimes he’s successful and other times, not so much. But in those times when the shot is not taken, he has no idea how successful he was. He appreciates me and who I am becoming and for that, I am thankful.
Your woman wants to be heard. I hope you heard me. Yes, she wants you to pay attention. In years past, I could be saying something very important that was on my mind, heart and soul. All along, I thought he was listening. How did I know that he wasn’t? When I asked, “What did I just say?” He clearly got it wrong. But now, he listens. He pays attention. He not only hears but understands my thoughts. Even when he doesn’t completely understand where I’m coming from, he still seems to care. He is tuned in. He hears because he chooses to listen and for that, I am thankful.
Your woman wants a gentleman. Yes, men can be men…with their unknowingly rudeness or lack of respect, simply because they’re men. But, wake up men. Women want a gentlemen. I love it when my husband opens the door for me. He doesn’t do it too much, but he seems to do it just enough that I notice. I appreciate it. My heart smiles every single time.
I love it when he randomly takes my hand in a public place, as if he’s saying… “I’m taking the lead. You’re safe with me. I want you close. I’m the gentleman.” I especially appreciate the gentleman in him when he drops me off at the door at a shopping center and he drives off to find that one spot to park at the far end. Sometimes, I decline and say, “It’s okay. I’ll walk.” But I still appreciate the gentleman who offered.
There are moments when we are dining and I sometimes just do not know what I want. I will mull over the menu several times, but nothing seems to really interest me. So, he being the gentleman, will make a suggestion. Not only does he suggest, but when the times comes to place the order, he orders for me. There’s something about hearing him say, “And she will have the…” He chooses to be the gentleman and for that, I am thankful.
Your woman wants you to be thoughtful. Thoughtful doesn’t exactly mean buying her an expensive piece of jewelry although, she would appreciate it. But what she appreciates more is when you bring home a bag of Hershey Kisses along with a large bag of chocolate peanut M&M’s when she’s been wanting a piece of chocolate all day. What she appreciates is you clearing your schedule and leaving work early just so the two of you can spend more quality time together. What she appreciates is you taking so much interest in her that you are willing to do something you might not really want to do, but do it willingly with her because you’re just that thoughtful. What she appreciates is when you’re watching TV together, you look over and realize she may need a blanket…so you grab one and ever so softly cover her. Yes…these are just a few things my husband has done for me. My husband is thoughtful and for that, I am thankful.
Your woman wants to see your confidence. I believe confidence, whether you are a man or woman, is sexy. Women like men who are confident. Women like men who are confident in their career, their finances, their relationships with family and with themselves. I’m not talking about an arrogant, egotistical confidence. I’m talking about the kind of confidence that expresses a humbleness that even when he’s unsure, he still displays a strong faith that everything will be ok. My husband shows confidence and for that, I am thankful.
Your woman wants you to be committed. In a world where cheating seems to be on the rise, your woman wants you to be different. She wants to know that you are committed to her completely. She needs honesty in your relationship. Be devoted. Stay away from the wandering eye. Stay away from the wandering websites. Make commitment a priority. Why? Because it’s the right thing to do. My husband is committed and for that, I am thankful.
Your woman wants you to be kind. The saying may go, “Nice guys finish last,” but in my book…they rank up there at the top. Kindness in a man is always a positive quality. If you are kind to your mother, your wife and family, your boss and co-workers, to your community, and yes…to your enemies; you are doing something right. Your woman wants to see your kindness. My husband is a kind man and for that, I am thankful.
Okay. So I have left you with a few thoughts that you may or may not have known. You might think, ‘uh…that’s not much.’…’surely women want more than that?’ Yep. They do. That will be in the next installment. But for now, I’ll leave you with this:
All said in love,
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